I was a bit later in life when I came to terms with who I am. I was 16 when I discovered I was bisexual and at 18 (almost 19) I finally discovered my gender. There was a lot of confusion within myself and because of my family situation I never thought I’d be able to come out. I grew up in a very Catholic family and I am still a follower of Catholicism, but I’m also still me. Kai Grayson, a bisexual genderfluid enby.
I came out to my mom about being bisexual on October 30, 2019. Five days after turning 18. On June 8, 2020 I talked to a few close friends about my gender and my name. I didn’t know what I was expecting, but what happened definitely wasn’t it. I was flooded with so much support from the three people who mattered most to me and it was insane. My best friend even helped me choose a binder. I had no idea why I was so afraid. On the other side, I can never tell my family I’m not cis. I know how that will go and that is not good.
As I’m writing this, I’ve never been to a pride festival. 2020 would have been my first time going, since I would finally be 18 and able to go where I wanted. I was kind of crushed, but the support I have from the people who matter most to me is enough.