On 6/12/18 I came out on my country radio DJ page. This was the post on my social media. It was met with thousands of likes and comments of support.
“Two years ago today- 49 people were massacred in a club in Orlando. A “safe place” for them- a place where they could feel “pride.” Do you know what it’s like to wake up one morning and find out that one of your dear friends was murdered for being gay? I do. Do you know what it’s like to be jumped in high school for “your friends” assumptions of your sexuality? I do. Do you know what it’s like to have your family ashamed of who you are and you can’t help it? I do. Do you know what it’s like to stare down the barrel of a gun because you can’t change who you are? I do. Do you know what it’s like to see the sadness in your partner’s face when you pull away from them in public because someone recognizes you? I do. Do you know what it’s like to worry if you’ll have a job because of who you are? I do. (My company has been very supportive btw). I’ve hidden who I was for over 20 years. Some of you know, and I appreciate the respect you have given me.
I am MC’ing the Pride event in Lakeland, FL this weekend. I don’t think too much of hypocrites. And I feel it would be very hypocritical of me to stand on that stage and promote Pride- when I am too scared to have it for myself.
So this is me- the same Sara you’ve always loved and the same Sara who always does things for others, telling you that I am not hiding anymore. Hiding has almost destroyed me inside, destroyed people who love me, and I am so tired of doing it. It’s exhausting. It’s deadly. Hiding helped destroy my marriage. No more hiding. I am not ashamed of who I am, and I was definitely not ashamed of who I was married to. I hope by being open and honest won’t hurt me too badly- but it can’t hurt anymore than I have hurt myself from trying to live two separate lives for so long. The change starts with me. I love each of you and thank you for letting me try to finally be me- freely.