What Does Family Mean To You?

What Does Family Mean To You?
Name:ย Melissa Connelly
Pronouns:ย She/Her
Instagram:ย missyhalle

๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—œ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜, ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—บ๐˜† ๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—น๐˜† ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—œ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ. Had to choose between loving a woman and having a family. As if I couldnโ€™t have both.

They were wrong.

The process isnโ€™t quite what I envisioned when I was younger. There are tests and monitoring that need to be done. There are nurses and doctors involved. Iโ€™ll be the first one to admit, itโ€™s not as easy as I thought it would be. (Check out my stories on IG for how we picked our donor).

Kim and I started trying to grow our family in March. Sadly, both of my IUIs were unsuccessful. On June 1st we decided to switch to IVF.

My companyโ€™s insurance changed and I no longer need to try IUI six times before insurance would cover IVF. Yep, you read that right, if you are a same sex couple, most insurances make you try IUI SIX TIMES! Keep in mind, every IUI can cost THOUSANDS of dollars! I canโ€™t begin to tell you how grateful I am. Or frankly how thankful our bank accounts are.

Because I have always wanted to be a mom. I have always wanted to carry a child. We are just like any other couple struggling to conceive. I donโ€™t deserve to be a mother any less just because I married a woman.

๐—ฆ๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ผ ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ณ๐˜† ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—Ÿ๐—š๐—•๐—ง๐—ค+ ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐—บ:

Your love is valid.

Having a family is possible.

No matter how you chose to grow oneโ€ฆ

Your family is valid.

๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—น๐˜† ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚?

๐Ÿ“ธ by the amazing LGBTQ+ photographer and BFFย @jodijhutton